A marriage that ends in divorce isn’t necessarily a failure.
Codie LaChelle McPhate of Waller, Texas recently shared her thoughts about what it means to be mature adults who remain committed to being there for their children even after their marriage is over. She was inspired to write the post, which has now gone viral with thousands of views worldwide, when she stopped by her mother’s house and saw something that stopped her in her tracks.
“This is my dad, mowing my mom’s lawn. They’ve been divorced 28 years,” Codie wrote.
“My mom has bad knees, and my stepdad works out of town. When my younger siblings questioned, ‘Why is your dad mowing mom’s lawn?,’ I told them, ‘Because, she needed help, and he knew she couldn’t get out here to do it, so he did.’”
Codie went on to explain that although her parents have been divorced for close to 30 years, they never once stopped caring about each other. After all, they have children together, and they will always respect the person who brought those lives into the world with them. Even though their circumstances have changed, they’re forever bonded by love.
“This is co-parenting. This is how lucky I am to have 4 parents who respect each other, and know that at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is showing your children (Even ones that are 32 years old) how to treat people, and how to love your family, no matter how it came together.”
“My dad is with me in Texas on vacation. He doesn’t even live here where my mom lives. So not only did he do something selflessly for her, he did it for her while he was on his VACATION. He wants everyone to know, ‘I’m no saint.’ He just wants to show others that you don’t need to act like an angelic pastor on lent, but that we should all choose kindness whenever we can.”
But it’s what Codie’s dad said about the reason he lent a hand that day that really resonated with the thousands of people who read the post. He didn’t mow that lawn for a pat on the back; he did it because it was easy for him to do, and it would help his ex-wife out. It’s just that simple.
“My dad said he didn’t do this for the recognition. He said my mom and he decided when they we going through their divorce they would both choose to be adults and treat each other with respect and compassion, because no matter how their marriage ended, they both loved each other very much at one point, and that, that love – counts for something. That if they were going to raise their children to be good, kind people, they needed to be good kind people.”
Wow! The world needs a lot more of this sort of thing. Codie is right to say that her parents are “amazing.” This is the kind of mature attitude that truly separates the men from the boys. Way to go, dad.